I had THAT conversation with my 7-year-old the other day. You know the one… how do babies get out of their mommies?
Our drive home always takes us past the hospital my youngest son was born at, and some days we shout out, “There’s Joey’s hospital!”
That’s exactly what we did the other day, and then everything changed when Ben, my 7-year-old, said, “Mommy can babies be born any place besides a hospital?”
Innocent enough question… so I thought.
Here’s what happened next:
Me:” Yes, babies can pretty much be born anywhere, they don’t have to be born at a hospital.”
Ben:” But then how do they get out of their mommies tummies, since they have to be cut out.”
(Point of clarity: I had two c-sections, so my boys have always seen my scar and they know that’s how they got out of mommy’s tummy. Apparently Ben assumed, innocently enough, ALL babies get out that way.)
Me: “Not all babies have to but cut out of their mommies.”
Ben: “They don’t?? Then how do they get out of their mommies?”
Oh God. I started sweating at that question. I wasn’t expecting that zinger. So, do I tell the truth or go down the path of least resistance? Yeah… I decided to tell the truth.
Me: “They come out of their mommy’s vaginas.”
Ben: “They do?!?” This was said with a look of horror on his face. “What do they look like?!?” Again, the kid looked like he was about to faint.
Me: “The babies or the vaginas?” (I was hoping he’d say babies.)
Ben: “The babies.” (Oh thank God he said babies!!!)
Me: “They look like all other babies who come out of their mommies tummies.”
Ben: “Aren’t they covered in poop?”
Me: “No. They come out of the vagina, not their mom’s bottom.”
Ben: “Well, they’re connected, so wouldn’t they have poop on them?”
Me: “Ben, vaginas and bottoms are not connected.”
Ben: “Uh, yes, they are. “
Me: “You have a penis and a bottom, and they’re not connected. Neither are vaginas and bottoms.”
Ben: “So babies don’t come out of vaginas covered in poop?”
Me: “No, honey, they don’t.”
Joey (3 years old): “Why we keep talking about ba-ginas?!”
Yeah, good question.
I had no idea when Ben asked his innocent question it would turn into an anatomy lesson.
I’m sure some of you might think I took the conversation too far, or that I didn’t need to be so detailed in my descriptions, but I want my kids to have the right age appropriate information, and I want to be the person to educate them.
So, this was NOT the conversation I expected to have with my 7-year-old, and let me tell you I was sweating bullets when we were having it. I really wanted to tell him that other babies come from storks, but I just knew that wouldn’t fly (no pun intended) with Ben.
Hence, the honest conversation about where babies come from.
The conversation wrapped up like this:
Me: “Ben, are you glad you had to be cut out of mommy?”